Why Rejection Sucks (though why wouldn’t it?)

Graduate-Job-RejectionI’m currently on a job search – and, unfortunately, it’s not going that well. I thought I would do a little write up on my experiences – because surely someone else out here can relate? And if not, well, at least I have done something productive with my day.

Seeing the job

You see the job advertised online. It sounds like a pretty good job – AND you seem to meet some of the specifications.

Enthusiastic? Yes, you are enthusiastic!

Hard working? Yes, that’s you.

Confident? Well, kind of – I mean you were pretty confident saying that speech for some event (unimportant; yet it felt important at the time), a few months back.

There are other requirements that you aren’t sure you meet, so you are a bit hesitant to send off the application. But then you send it off – and you send off another twenty applications to other companies – and you wait.

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The wait

Some companies get back straight away.

“Apologies, but you do not fit the requirements of the job.”

“We are sorry to tell you that we have given the job to someone with more experience.”

You feel a bit sad, but it is fine – you still have a whole other list of jobs you applied to – so you keep on waiting.

The doubt

Nobody else has got back to you, so you decide to re-read your cover letter and CV – then the self-doubt kicks in.

So first of you re-read your cover letter – oh god, I sound like such a cocky idiot here, you think. I’m not like that – I promise!

It’s a difficult one to do because if you don’t say anything about yourself, then they’ll think you’re too shy for the job – not the “confident” person they want. And yes, you’ve done it to sound humble – but maybe it’s a bit too humble and they’ll pass you over for someone who brags more.

So then you re-write it to boast a bit more. You mention everything you’ve ever done – even the debating you did at school for three months. And sure, it might sound impressive – but then you sound way too self-obsessed!

And it’s so hard finding that balance – I don’t want to sound like an arrogant arse, but nor do I want to sound too shy. (When the job clearly states that they want “confident individuals to apply.”)
So you keep on re-writing and re-applying – and waiting.

The ones who don’t reply

Some will reply within an hour. Some will reply that day or that week. But some (and there are a lot), will choose not to reply at all. And it is the most annoying thing in the world.

Why don’t you reply to me?

I have poured out my heart and soul into this application – told you more stuff than many of my friends and family know – and you reject me! I’ve given my soul to a faceless company and you haven’t even had the decency to acknowledge me, to call me back.

So weeks later I’m still sitting there twiddling my thumbs thinking “maybe they’re taking the time to consider.” And yet the reality is they’ve already held interviews, chosen a candidate and said candidate is about to start the job.

But it would take two minutes to write a reply – two minutes! (Feels tempted to leave scathing review on company’s website – but decides this is an immature move, and does not.)

In some ways, navigating the job scene is much the same as navigating the dating scene – both filled with rejections, false hopes and, at the core of it all – a sense of shame that you are not good enough.

 

The doubt

Am I such a repulsive person that I don’t even deserve a call back?

And at the end of the day, you just fall into a state of depression.

Your life seems to be revolving around rejections – romantically you’ve been rejected – because nobody wants to date you. But, even worse, you’ve been rejected non-romantically – you’ve also been rejected based on your qualifications and skills. And you look at yourself in the mirror – “I’m not good enough”. Nobody likes me based on my personality, qualifications, or skills  – that is what you have gathered from all your job rejections. And it kinda sucks!

And in your job application you have written what a “confident” individual you are – but really, you don’t feel confident at all.

You also used to state you were “hard-working” and “enthusiastic” in your application. But after fifty rejections, that “confident” has turned into “insecure.” That “hard-working” has turned into “sick of it all”. And that “enthusiastic” has turned into “depressed.”

But you gotta pick yourself up from this.

Keep on trying.

Keep on applying.

(BTW sadly none of these photos are mine #1 is from https://www.studential.com/blog/graduate-job-hunting-how-to-handle-rejection #2 is https://www.robertwalters.com.au/career-advice/Six-ways-to-turn-a-job-rejection-to-your-advantage.html, #3 is https://connachttribune.ie/late-summer-holidays-594/.)

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Mamma Mia: Here We Go Again! Review

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The last year has been filled with countless sequels – indeed, stepping into any cinema foyer, all I can see are posters of the second, third or fourth film in a franchise – Incredibles 2, Mission: Impossible – Fallout, Hotel Transylvania 3… Now, a lot of them are unnecessary – this, however, I’ve been “Waiting For You” – for a long, long time! Let us commence with the review of Mamma Mia – or, as it is called in the country where I saw it – “Mamma Mia! Štai ir mes.”

We first meet a pregnant Sophie at her Greek Hotel. Amanda Seyfried plays the role pretty well – and it is weird seeing her as this character, as I still mainly associate her as Karen in Mean Girls – both very different characters, thankfully! If it had been Karen on this island, the film probably would have followed a very different path – though Karen, with her weather prediction skills, might have been able to warn everyone when that storm hit the island…

The film starts off in a horrible way – Sophie is grieving the death of her Mother, Donna, played by Meryl Streep. This came as a huge shock, as an older Meryl Streep had been present in the trailer for the film. I really didn’t like this choice made by the filmmakers – leading me on to think Donna

And from then on, we are faced with a flashback – Oxford uni graduation ceremony in 1979. The graduation procedure is a bit dull until Donna, running late as per usual (this I could relate to only too well) joins the procedure. She says a speech and then… begins to sing! “When I Kissed a Teacher” is blasted out, a fun-filled song that doesn’t really seem like it belongs in such a prestigious stuffy institution as Oxford University. What was particularly interesting about this was that 1979 was the same year my Grandmother graduated, except her ceremony didn’t resemble a musical.

And then the film carries on in this same way – flashback, flashforward, flashback, flashforward… Apparently, according to the writers, this structure was inspired by The Godfather Part 2 – probably the only inspiration drawn from the Godfather Part 2.

Lily James plays the part of young Donna with this same infectious enthusiasm she had when playing Lady Rose in Downton Abbey. As someone who is about to embark on a gap year, Donna is very fearless and inspiring – the idea of going to a foreign country does not fill her with fear, but rather with thrills! I hope to embrace the same amount of confidence when I get on with my gap year, if I decide to do any more travelling.

The three men she falls in love with are all quite handsome – though am not going to lie, two of them looked so similar I kept on mixing them up. One she meets in Paris (the city of love, how romantic!) There they sing Waterloo, of course, couldn’t they have been a bit more original? The next one she meets on a boat, then the final guy she bumps into on the island. The songs that power Donna from encounter to encounter are all lesser-known ABBA beats – yet still very good.

The film, not only paying homage to ABBA and the fashion of the late 70s, also pays a lovely homage to the character of Donna – her legacy and it tells of the happiness she gave to all those around her.

Also, it was a real surprise to see that Richard Curtis had got himself involved in this. Not quite as good as Notting Hill or Bridget Jones, but with this film I am in Love, Actually. (Sorry, but it was About Time.)

Fight Writers block with me!

Hello,

MJ Amore here 🙂

Writers block – the enemy of every writer.

Well do you want to learn a fun way to try and get rid of it?

Of course you do – follow my quick step by step guide to learn how. And even if you aren’t a writer, you could try this exercise anyway – it’s also a good way to fight boredom on those long, hot summer days.

Step 1) Enter any room in your home, preferably the bedroom. Try and avoid rooms such as the bathroom.

Step 2) Your room has four sides, yes? Well, what you’re going to do is pick two objects from each side of the room. Completely random objects. In this example, I have gathered a toy panda, a clapperboard, a Princess Anna figurine, a fan, a castle, a die, an elephant figurine and a ring. Here is the random mix below:

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Step 3) Using these objects, try and come up with a short story. Give yourself ten minutes.

Has it worked? Please do let me know. I wasn’t too sure about this game as I know, from experience, what works for one person might not exactly work for another. If you have managed to come up with a story in this time, lemme read it! And you never know, this little story which you devised in ten minutes could evolve itself into something bigger and before you know it – a novel idea might be born!

Bye for now,

MJ Amore 🙂

 

My Top Five Films of 2018 so far

Hello,

So we’re almost half-way through the year (can you believe it?) and I thought now would be a great time to give you a little round-up of the films I have enjoyed the most this year. I have seen quite a mixture – from Oscar bait to Indie films to superhero blockbuster – so it was quite hard to whittle it down to five. But I have.

Let me know which ones you have seen, and in what order you would rank the films!

Also, please note that not all of these films came out in 2018 – however, these are films that I have seen at the cinema in 2018 – which is why they are on this list.

  1. Ladybird

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Just a really sweetly done high-school film, complete with a beautiful setting and a perfect cast (hello Saoirse Ronan, Timothee Chalamet, I’m looking at you guys.) Not to mention that it was directed by a woman – the wonderful Greta Gerwig. For this film she was nominated for an Oscar, which, shockingly, makes her one of only five women ever to have been nominated for this prestigious award. (And only one woman has ever won, Kathyrn Bigelow in 2008.)

I am glad that this film came out when it did – the year I’m leaving school – as I feel like it spoke to me more than it would have had it came out any other year. Like Ladybird, I am having to think about university and starting a new chapter.

What I really like about the film is the relationship Ladybird has with her Mum. They have quite a tense relationship, one which results in a lot of fall outs. Though I do actually get on really well with my own Mum, our relationship is also scattered with arguments. And there was one scene, the scene where Ladybird and her Mum go shopping for dresses, which, literally, I think must have been stolen from my own life.

Finally, another thing I liked about the film was the relationship between Ladybird and her best friend – I really did ship their friendship.

If you liked this you might like…?

 

  • Brave (2012). This film also centres on a strong-willed red-head fighting with her mum.
  • The Edge of Seventeen (2017). Also directed by a woman, it stars Hailee Steinfield.
  • Freaky Friday (2003).

2. The Greatest Showman

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Let’s write this film review using only lyrics from the songs, shall we?

Oh, gosh, would love to – but that seems so time-consuming.

Anyway, as we all know, this film was absolutely hated by the film critics, but was adored by the public.

I absolutely loved this film – it was just so beautifully shot, it had a great soundtrack and it also had a message, which the film’s protagonist, Mr Barnum (Hugh Jackman), learnt through this song, From Now On:

For years and years
I chased their cheers
A crazy speed of always needing more
But when I stop
And see you here
I remember who all this was for

In other words: he learnt that it was important to follow his dreams, but to make sure that in the process his family – the one he did all this for in the first place – did not get hurt.

Yes, it might be historically inaccurate.

Yes, plot-wise it might be lacking.

Yes, some of the songs might seem a bit cliché and as if you’ve heard them before. (Rewrite the Stars, don’t you think?)

But, despite it’s flaws, I can say that:

Ladies and gents, this is the show you’ve been waiting for!

If you liked this you might like…?

  • The Secret Garden (1993.) If you liked the scene where the two children are wondering through the old house, singing “A Million Dreams”, then you will definitely like this film.
  • La La Land (2016). The songs came from the same songwriters, so this makes sense.
  • Howl’s Moving Castle (2004). An anime set in a similar time period, with similar themes of don’t judge a book by its cover.
  • A Little Princess (1995.) Also set in old-day New York. (Though the book is better.)

3. Paddington 2

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Did you know this film has 100% on Rotten Tomatoes?

I saw this film on January the 1st 2018 and it was definitely the best way to start the New Year. It’s incredibly funny and well-made and that cute little bear from Peru had me in fits of laughter. And, plus, the film had Hugh Grant – what more can be said?

If you liked this you might like…?

  • Paddington (2014). Obviously.
  • My Neighbour Totoro (1988).
  • Babe (1995). Haven’t seen this film in ages, but I did really like it when I was younger.

4. Three Billboards Outside Ebbing, Missouri

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While quite a depressing watch (why did I watch this on my birthday?), it was still really enjoyable and gripping. It had a great female lead with Frances McDormand playing the kick-ass mother.

I especially liked the development of Sam Rockwell’s character. Although initially he was the “bad guy”, as the film progressed and we learned more about him, we began to understand him more and realise why he was this way.

5. I Feel Pretty

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I Feel Embarassed at putting this one up but hey, in terms of enjoyment – I thought it was good. It kind of had a Bridget Jonesesque feel to it (albeit American) and it is something that I would, quite happily, watch again. Amy Schumer plays the title role perfectly and as for laughs – there are plenty to get you through this New York set comedy. And sure, message-wise, the film has gatherered a lot of backlash. But that still didn’t stop it from being an amy-zing film. (See what I did there.)

If you liked this you might like…?

  • Legally Blonde (2001.) A blonde gets into Harvard Law School, where she is immediately categorized as “dumb” by her peers, who judge her based on her looks.
  • Bridget Jones Baby (2016). A laugh a minute film which also has a quirky main lead
  • The Devil Wears Prada (2006). About fashion and mean bosses
  • Neon Demon (2016). A more horrific take on the cut-throat (literally) world of fashion

Here are some of the films that did not make the cut:

Avengers: Infinity War

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I think I needed to have been more invested in the Marvel universe to really appreciate it. Also, I was having a terrible day when I saw this, which might not have helped with the rating of this film. But hey, it did have a great cast. (Benedict Cumberbatch, Letitia Wright, Robert Downey Jr, Chadwick Boseman, Elizabeth Olsen, Tom Hiddleston, Karen Gillan, Tom Holland, Scarlett Johansson and far too many others to name.)

Just… It wasn’t for me, I’m really sorry.

Isle of Dogs

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Fun fact: I actually got to see this film early, at a press screening. Have no idea why I was chosen, when I had already made it clear that I was not a dog fan nor a fan of Wes Anderson. Anyway, while an incredibly inventive film, I am not a big enough dog-lover to put this on the sacred list. Apologies. Had it been Isle of Cats, however… It would at least be in the top three.

 

A Wrinkle in Time

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This was a real disappointment for me. I had been really looking forward to it because not only was it directed by Ava DuVearney, but it also had Reese Witherspoon and Oprah. (And if you know me, Reese is one of my all-time favourite actresses.) Sadly though, despite having a great, female-led cast (where this time it’s the guy getting saved), unfortunately the plot was a bit too basic. And as for the magical setting? It felt like it was suffocating in CGI.

The Post

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Aggh, it was alright (ok, well it is a bit more than alright – we’re talking the dream team of Meryl Streep, Stephen Spielberg and Tom Hanks here.) But still – I have definitely seen better Spielberg.

A Ciambra

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This was an Italian film about a young boy and was Italy’s official selection for the Oscars. Sadly, though, it was a little dull.

Thank you very much for reading this blog post! I hope you enjoyed reading it as much as I enjoyed writing it. Let me know what you think of the films, please! And if you have any film recommendations of this year, fire ’em away!

I’ll be posting some time this week.

MJ Amore 🙂

Exams are done… Time to blog!

So, exams are done which *drumroll please* means that I now have the time to blog!

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Hopefully I’m going to be blogging at least 2-3 times a week, if not more.

Later on today I’ll be publishing my “Top Five Films of 2018 so far”, so please do check that out 🙂

Anyway, bye for now,

MJ Amore

 

Hiatus until end of May

Dear all,

I am really sorry but I have realised that I have got so much on my plate that I’m going to have to take a break from blogging until my exams are over, which won’t be until the end of May.

However, after that I aim to be constantly blogging, at least twice a week!

Thanks so much for understanding 😊

MJ Amore

Rudolph the One Eyed Unicorn and the Depressed Snowman Cake

“Is that a one eyed unicorn?” my Grandpa asked, pointing at the reindeer figure above the Christmas cake.

I sighed. “Grandpa, it’s supposed to be a reindeer.”

“Well it doesn’t look like one.”

Want to hear about my baking experiment? Well, read on! But first…

Merry Christmas everyone!

I hope your day was bright, merry and filled with laughter.

My Christmas certainly was and I had a lovely time with my family. I am sorry I haven’t been so active lately, I’ve just been really busy.

Anyhow, let me get on with the blog! In advance, apologies for the bad quality of the photos. They were all taken on my phone and not on my camera.

As always, the decorating of the Christmas cake lies on me.

Now usually, I do an okay job at decorating the cake. (As seen down below. One was made at the age of twelve – the Snowman and the Snowdog cake – and the other one was made at the age of fourteen.)

 

But this year… Things turned out a little different than expected.

The plan had been to create a “Rudolph and Snowman Cake”. And to be fair, I didn’t think it would be that difficult. I have made more challenging treats in my time and I honestly thought it would be – wait for the pun – a piece of cake.

It turns out it wasn’t.

The whole family erupted into laughter when they saw what I had made.

Despite having spent hours labouring over this masterpiece (whilst listening to a soundtrack of the Chainsmokers, Halsey and Taylor Swift), it didn’t look that great.

You can see for yourself what it looked like.

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I decided for the cake to have chocolate snow and here is a pile of chocolate snowballs. Now, my father, the mature adult he is not, did not think that these were snowballs. Oh no, he thought they were something else entirely.

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“Has Rudolph had an accident?” he inquired. “He could have at least done it behind a Christmas tree, not in the middle of the cake.”

Now you guys can tell me whether or not you think that these are indeed snowballs (as they were intended to be), or the alternative.

And if we zoom in on the snowman, we can see that he is not the jolly Frosty I had hoped for him to be.

Instead he looks depressed. (Though incredibly cute!)

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And finally let me focus on Rudolph the Red Nose Reindeer. Or, as my Grandpa calls him: “Rudolph the One Eyed Unicorn.”

He (the snowman, not my Grandpa) was impossible to make.

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To begin with, his head absolutely refused to stay on. It kept on rolling off and landing in the snow. So he actually almost became “Rudolph the Headless One Eyed Unicorn” – which might have made a great Halloween decoration, but an awful Christmas decoration.

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^ The head of the snowman also kept falling off ^

Finally the head stayed put and the cake was now completed. After taking several photos, it was presented to the dinner table.

Mum had a different view of Rudolph. “Is it a table?” she asked. 

All in all, this baking experiment did end up being quite different to how I hoped it would be.

But it was still fun.

And entertaining.

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Anyhow, I hope you enjoyed the blog!

I’m hoping to publish a lot more frequently in the coming weeks, due to the fact I’m on holiday until mid January. So do look out for book reviews, film reviews, fashion talk, rants and all that sort of stuff. (I might even add in a New Year special if you are very lucky!)

Bye for now,

MJ Amore 😀